It’s not easy to maintain a blog. Besides having the ability to articulate your thoughts with tolerable vocabulary combined with net savviness, you have to be your own editor, PR and publicity manager. You cannot sit on your high throne and expect readers to land at your doorstep, drawn to your “brilliance”. You have to venture out and seduce them and continue to tantalize them with quality stuff to make sure they do not leave in search for meaner and greener pastures. It’s not like a marriage where once you’ve said I do, you live happily ever after with your can of beer, iPhone and cricket. You have to constantly work out those grey cells, continue reinventing yourself, occasionally shock and challenge the living daylights out of your readers with your unorthodox views and lull them into believing you’re the best thing that ever happened to them.
To cut it short, blogging is a lot of hard work. Add to that the allure of sexy young nymphets like Facebook, Twitter, Reddit, Pinterest, Tumblr and their sundry cousins that promise you instant orgasmic fame without demanding too much of your time, commitment and grammar, it gets even tougher to stay faithful to Srimati Blogeshwari. Little wonder the restless and the impatient are happy to file for divorce, preferring the comfort of friends with benefits.
Like any other medium, blogosphere’s natural selection ensures that only the fittest survive. Like any other relationship, your blog demands your attention and love. You either chicken out or give it your all. It takes a talented, motivated individual to maintain a successful blog.
For most of us, blogging is not just our personal space where we share our thoughts with like-minded people, rant about issues that bother us, or make others laugh with anecdotes from our life. It’s our passion, something that gives meaning to our lives and makes us believe that, in some insignificant way, we are making a difference is someone else’s life. You start from scratch, with no ‘useful’ contacts, relying solely on your talent and dedication, reach out to thousands and hope what you have to say resonates for a while.
Blogging, as a medium, does not constrict you with character limits or expected formats, unlike many others. It gives you the freedom to make it your own. It’s a medium through which we express ourselves, be it through poetry, sketches, photography or satirical writing. We write what the media ignores or has forgotten about, we question societal norms, raise awareness about issues that no one dares to talk about. We are the voice of the people, we are the platform for debate. It’s just that each medium has its place and some fall by the wayside because readers or users abandon it.
As long as there are people who are looking for opinions that are not coloured by bias or hidden agendas, words that uplift or make them reminisce about the good old days, unite them in grief for a girl brutalized by a group of drunken men on a cold December night, blogs are here to stay. Perhaps as a launch-pad for an aspiring writer or a columnist, a space for a homemaker she can truly call her own as she pours her heart out and bonds with strangers, a canvas for a budding photographer, a talented cook, a fashion diva or a bored office executive who pens short stories to hold on to his sanity.
And now that Manmohan Singh has got freedom to do whatever his wife likes, I’m looking forward to reading his blog. I think I already know what he’ll call it - Musings of an Unmuted Mind.
ROFL at the last line, Maun-Mohan and his unmuted mind ... hmm I'd pay money to read it even
ReplyDeleteI'm sure he'll bag a mult-million dollar book deal if if he decides to talk.
DeleteLook forward to reading Arun Jaitley's comment on the Musings of an Unmuted Mind.
ReplyDeletePoor guy. Even his blog posts will be edited by Mother and Son.
It seems Mother and Son have learnt nothing from their poll debacle. Well, good for us, we'll never have to worry about them messing up the economy again.
DeleteLove your blog posts everytime I land here. Enjoyed and agree with every line. Blogs are hard work like everything meaningful in life. I think when one blogs or writes for himself/ herself more,than for others.. It is more likely to sustain. Feel the same,for photography too.
ReplyDeleteI feel photo-blogs are the trickiest- capturing those priceless moments and conveying emotions where words fail, is no easy task.
DeleteHa! Let us hope MMS speaks at least in the blog :P
ReplyDeleteAnd, yes, blogging is hard work and tough to sustain! You got to 'Auntydom' but I revel still in childhood, despite transitioning from Uncle to Grandpa in real life :) THAT is the allure of blogosphere for me :)
I am the aunty with child-like enthusiasm. I'll pretend to be 18 till I die.
DeleteReaders who enjoy witty writing will keep following & reading blogs such as yours.
ReplyDelete4 years of blogging have taught me one valuable lesson - you can never take your readers for granted.
DeleteChalo...now I know that what I am doing is not useless. Now I feel like I am a 'talented, motivated individual'...not that my blog is successful...but it is running..
ReplyDelete4 years is amazing! Don't your ever give up on your Blogeshwari!
Your endearing honesty is what attracts readers to your blog in droves.
DeleteHaha...I too would look forward to Manmohan Singh's blog! Wonderfully written Purba...though I got a sense of imminent doom as we bloggers struggle to survive the onslaught of these pretty nymphs :)
ReplyDeleteThose pretty nymphs are pretty handy for publicizing your content. I spent an awful amount of time on Twitter that's where I get most of my inspiration from!
DeleteMusings of an unmuted mind... yes, a blog remains so long as the mind unwinds, rewinds, and is mindful of its existence.
ReplyDeleteArvind Passey
www.passey.info
What I love about writing is, it makes you to question, analyze, observe and draw your own conclusions.
DeleteYou are so right... Blogging needs commitment and a constant flow of thoughts too. I myself have faced lull periods, the one that is going on right now :(
ReplyDeleteLol...story of my life. But we do manage to overcome it every time.
DeleteYay Blogeshwari gets a mention on your blog. :) *doing the happy jig*
ReplyDeleteEndorse everything that you say. Blogs are here to s(t)ay. And yes, we because we write, we are.
Loved it!
And it shall remain that way.
DeleteJab tak sooraj chaand rahega, Blogeshwari tera naam rahega :D
You said it! What more can I add. It is hard work, toil and deeply satisfying. No matter how much other writing I do, I see myself never giving up blogging. It energizes me. And you are one of the most dedicated and talented bloggers around. Always a pleasure to read you. About celebs, you know how tough it is for them to talk personal :).
ReplyDeleteWe do go through our phases of exhaustion, introspection, disenchantment but we keep coming back to it. My blog is my identity, Rachna. And what's more, I met wonderful people like you through it.
DeleteI Photo Blog ,,
ReplyDeleteYes sir and you do a wonderful job of it.
DeleteYou have said what all of us feel but no one could have said it in a better way... It's not easy ...It's one thing to have a blog and another to maintain it and who better to describe it than you :)
ReplyDeleteIt's not easy and only those who blog know it :-)
DeleteI can relate to that... I maintain three blogs and to come uo with contents every week is like a 24/7 job, that needs to be taken very seriously. Apart from that is the business-as-usual activities like reading, commenting, finding new blogs. Yup it's a complete job :) WIsh I could put all this in my resume ...
ReplyDelete//Musings of an Unmuted Mind// hahaha :D I wonder what that would be like. Maybe you can write one for him.
I can barely manage one and look at you, maintaining three blogs. Phew!
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But that's what passion is all about. You keep coming back to it despite all odds.
You made us all feel so good about ourselves! :) I wonder if I will be able ti survive even a year, let alone four :P Btw the idea of MMS having a blog is awesome, after ten years of deathly silence, a blog takes birth. how dramatic is that! :P
ReplyDeleteThe idea of MMS starting a blog was inspired by Rickie's FB post. Trust him to come up with this.
DeleteYou mean Manmohan is really going to write?
ReplyDeleteKeeping my fingers crossed.
DeleteYour writings are uncanny, witty and sarcastic and convey the message for all whom it may concern. And that too when it is by a lady blogger, that openness pricks at least a few. So be in the blogosphere and keep typing it out. Let MMS do whatever he might or might not do!
ReplyDeleteWhy mince words when you can mince people with your words!
DeleteThank you for your kind words :-)
A title that drew me in straight away. You obviously work hard at many aspects of blogging. I think the nicest reward is the connections you forge. As long as you keep coming up with original material and one or two lip twitching witticisms, you may slow down but I hope you don't stop.
ReplyDeleteLike you said, Khoty. It's not just about writing, it's about the wonderful connections we make. I'll stop the day I think its not making me happy anymore.
DeleteAh ha, I hope MMS finally gets to say something on the blog. Maybe Sonia will still hold the admin rights :P
ReplyDeleteI'm a blogger since 5 years now, making me your aunty! :D
Auntydom is a question of mind over matter. If you don't mind, it doesn't matter :D
DeleteI am not even sure my blog will last enough for me to be called a "veteran" But I agree, as long as people need an outlet and feel the need for space, albeit in a virtual environment, there will be blogs. As for Manmohan Singh's blog - the title is just brilliant :)
ReplyDeleteAs long as you don't stop writing, does it matter whether you have a blog or not? Its all about making your voice heard.
Deleteso very right.. many a blogs die a sudden death, I think people lose the zeal to write anymore after some time or other things takes precedence ..
ReplyDeleteyep it is hard work and if you perchance start to beleive the people who come to your blog like you or are really friends with you .. or many of them genuinely mean what they write , to you.. you are living in another dream :)
Totally with you 100% on what you say on blogging, I am also learning the ways of this world. its taking time but I will get there hopefully .. Knowing how the blogging world works .. :)
Bikram
Quoting Prateek here - Blogging is about being yourself. I feel that people give more importance to the reader....it is about you....about writing for yourself,because you want to. Those who think that blogging will give them instant fame are the ones who quit.
Deleteyes mam.. point noted.. and you are right sometimes we tend to do that .. or rather maybe I do..
DeleteThank you
Bikram
Iam blogging for 10 years now..that makes ne a grandfather eh?! :)
ReplyDeleteYou are the expert!
DeleteSatyavachan. Manmohan Singh has to still come out of his shock I guess...shocked with the freedom he has!
ReplyDeleteOr he'll continue to do what he does best - be his master's voice :D
DeletePurba,
ReplyDeleteI feel that this is the best of your post. Not because, this post brought out your brilliance. But because this post brought out your underlying character and approach to blogging. I wish I could approach blogging with the same patience and love that you have.
Truly great post!
Quoting Holly Mosier - “When I take a break, even just a brief one, the creative energy flows in. Only then do I have anything of value to share with others. Once I recognized this, I stopped feeling guilty about taking time for myself.”
DeleteWell, I am glad the blogosphere has you, Purba. Sometimes, readers don't simply stick around because of a blogger's brilliant words and thoughts, they do because they get to know the wonderful and genuinely warm human being behind them!
ReplyDeleteAnd now, I shall go and google "Musings of an Unmuted Mind" :D
Rickie, you have no idea how critical I am about myself and others. Precisely why you're so frustrating. I have yet to find that something that I don't like about you :-)
DeleteAnd had it not been for your FB post, I couldn't have come up with the idea of "Musings of an Unmuted Mind" :D
Hmm... at first I thought you were setting out to prove that blogs were dead, but then I had to read the whole thing through, thus proving that you are truly a veteran at making people read things all the way through.
ReplyDeleteStrangely, my first blog was more started back in 2005, but it never was more than an lazy attempt at working out what the hell a "weblog" was. It's only been the last couple of years that I've started taking it a bit more seriously.
Finding readers and holding their attention is hard work. It is not enough that you have the ability to distinguish between "your" and "you're". :) You have already received "blogger aunty" status because you've cracked the code. And you write well, very well.
Keep on keeping on!
I think I've finally got it. I write so that I can read such lovely comments and feel good about myself :-)
DeleteYou are the best thing to have happened to the Blogging world of Gurgaon and the Indian blogging world in my opinion.
ReplyDeleteBlogging is about being yourself. I feel that people give more importance to the reader....it is about you....about writing for yourself,because you want to. Those who think that blogging will give them instant fame are the ones who quit.
If you write for yourself...readers won't matter much. :)
This is one of your best posts. Thank you for writing this.
And, you had to take a dig at our ex PM didn't you.
I think of my blog as an extension of who I am. I am fickle, I fret too much and can be mean at times but am I glad I have friends/nephews like you who have seen it all and yet to give up on me?
DeleteAnd I've been around for 7 years!! The title of your post did scare me because I want to remain a blogger for the rest of my life even if nobody cares to read :)
ReplyDeleteMore power to you, girl! Do what makes you happy.
DeleteI have been blogging for almost 9 years now. But the problem is that I do not get to spend much time to blogging. I scribble something when I feel like letting my thoughts out. I cannot imagine not writing.
ReplyDeleteon blogging
DeleteWe all need an outlet to vent the turmoil and the voices in our head. Sometimes its happy, sometimes it doesn't make any sense at all. But it's your space - you get to decide what you want to share with the world.
Delete" Musings of unmuted mind" ROFL!!! True, we have the space to have our say on issues ignored by the media and I love it when the post ends up oozing satire;) It is definitely not cake walk...having completed 4 years in this blogosphere and still unnoticed, I am deliriously happy writing for ME :))) Great post, Purba!
ReplyDeleteOur blog is a break from the mundane. It's here we get to be 'just me'.
DeleteBlogging helps me to maintain work-life balance. I can now pretend to be working on serious business documents on an otherwise "demanding" weekend mornings.
ReplyDeleteHeh...it's an outlet for the child-nephew-rebel-guruji in us :D
DeleteMann..too many comments..I have to scroll down endlessly to be able to add one :)
ReplyDeleteYet you didn't say anything :-)
DeleteHilarious! Refreshing!! Thoughtful!!!
ReplyDeleteOne of these days I might use this as my bio :D
DeleteTo me writing is more of a therapy. I have never had the enthusiasm to actively promote my blog. Apart from writing my own, I love reading good quality stuff in other people's spaces and share my thoughts on what they have written. Sometimes they come back to check my space and encourage my writing with a comment or two. That's about it!
ReplyDeleteBut of course,I do feel really demotivated when my post sits for days without comments .. After all the effort .. If one can actively promote one's blog and not get tired doing it, nothing like that. I do not enjoy doing that work.
I completely agree on that maintaining a successful blog is a big job. And I really liked the name you have given to Manmohan Singh's blog :)
Once you've been blogging for long, you build a community of dedicated readers, many of whom become friends. Blogging is all about sharing our thoughts and also encouraging others with our feedback.
DeleteVery well said Purba. Happy to share, that your blog takes me to a happy place when the mundane routine gets on to me. It makes me laugh, amuses me at times and never fails to make me think .
ReplyDeletePlease keep writing always....u are touching so many hearts.
It's comments like these that encourage me to try harder even on days I'm dog-tired. If it makes you happy, it makes me happier :-)
DeleteCarry on relentlessly, Aunty ji (I know you have enough sense of humour and more), despite the shortcuts and their shortlived pleasures.
ReplyDeleteI am now waiting for my Matajee phase.
DeleteIt was a pleasant read for amateur bloggers like me and also an inspiration for us to write more.
ReplyDeletePlease do read my blog and let me know your views on the same:-)
Sure I will.
DeleteHe he he he...i started my blog 2 years ago....but in a month left it....and now back again..:-D
ReplyDeleteWay to go, Isaac!
DeleteInstant orgasmic fame ? What do you eat to think such nuggets....or is it some secret sauce/ magical snake oil that tickles the funny bone ? As long as you keep on coming with these Gems, A-musing will be alive and kicking a butt or two and we readers will keep on coming to get our dollops of fun filled posts.
ReplyDeleteI wish I could always be funny. Le sigh :/
DeleteAll the points are true. It's takes hard work to maintain a successful blog and if you are working it takes up your free time and even gives you sleepless nights. :)
ReplyDeleteI have yet to experience sleepless nights. Must be a lot of fun :D
DeleteROFL. I liked your thought behind the post. Let's see what Manmohan singh has to say!
ReplyDeleteSomeone is Special
Hehehe...
DeleteHa ha ha ha.. I loved this one Purba.. The blogging veteran :P.. I agree, maintaining a blog is no joke. I really thought it would be easy, but I realize it is much much easier said than done :)
ReplyDeleteBut when you love what you do, you don't mind all the extra work :-)
DeleteI agree with each and every word of this post !!..I hope I could take a video while I was reading it..smiling and nodding my head as if I'm listening to a Bhimsen Joshi... !!
ReplyDeletethe last nail in the coffin....Man-mohan..well..let him speak at least in a blog..Amen.. :-D
Hahaha...I'll wait for it. Next time maybe?
DeleteThanks for sharing such pearls of wisdom. Nothing great is ever achieved without hard-work, dedication...& all other similar adjectives :) Blogging needs all this & more to thrive & not RIP :)
ReplyDeleteAnd it's dedicated bloggers like us who can make it happen.
DeleteImagine the addiction of reading at other end of the world where you try to read and the message flashes purba-ray.com is not responding! Keep penning these merry thoughts that add pep to life:)
ReplyDeleteAnd I feel immensely proud to have friends like you who make special efforts to keep up with my musings.
DeleteYou have done excellent postmortem of a blog to survive in this competitive world specially in your own words from 'sexy young nymphet'!!
ReplyDeleteThank you for reading :-)
DeleteI loved the part about Manmohan Singh!! :D And true, blogging is a lot of hardwork and requires real dedication, specially when you are a newbie.. :)
ReplyDeleteIndeed, the initial phase is important to make your presence felt.
DeleteIts absolutely true that you can't just sit there expecting to draw readers in by the brilliance of your writing, thinking they'll just line up at your blog's door. But the argument that it isn't like a marriage - where once you've said 'I do' you can just sit back and relax - isn't a great one. Marriage needs as much attention as a blog. Just saying :)
ReplyDeleteAbsolutely - like your partner you can never take your blog for granted :-)
DeleteThis lovely posts says it all.....you are in love with blogging or how else can you get such subjects.
ReplyDeleteIt's very well written
Thank you :-)
Deletethats just sooo true!! and i love ur eshtyle of writing its so hillarious, the blogosphere is a hard place to survive
ReplyDeleteIf blogosphere is a hard place, you have to work harder to win it over :-)
DeleteBlogging, indeed, is a tough job and needs constant nurturing. The more you write, the more people look at it. So, keep writing. One will always find some readers. Thanks. Quite an interesting blog post.
ReplyDeleteAnd thanks for reading :-)
DeleteWell blogging is hard work, no doubt about it. But we chose to do it despite knowing the fact that our professional and personal responsibilities would stay as such. We started for different reasons, of course, but the reasons were compelling enough for us to make that hard choice. I think if we stay true to that and don't blog for followers, contests or even number of hits, it will stay a very productive side of our personality.
ReplyDeleteI started 5.5 years ago. Of course, I am not a famous blogger, but that doesn't affect my motivation to write. I have asked you and other known names, tips on how to attract more traffic, and no one can deny that we want more and more recognition. But that's just a part of blogging, not the whole of it. At the end of the day, stats are just stats. I love the fact that I have an opinion that's documented and I love the fact that I can quote my own poems and lines!
And yes, the post about about that girl in Delhi on that December night or those stories with Sita and her woes or the funny chronicles of the Bai, are all timeless and would stay so irrespective of the medium :).
How beautifully put, Prateek. There's so much of us we reveal through our writing - our fears, vulnerabilities, memories that shaped us. We are constantly discovering new things about us and what surrounds us through blogging.
DeleteI love your analysis and you're right that blogging is hard work that not everyone can keep at!
ReplyDeleteHa! You had to add that lethal last line! ! :D
It's addictive, time consuming yet it fills us up with so much energy.
DeleteLove the hilarious Manmohan line, Purba. An enticing post on what's not to do on the blogging sphere. It involves lots of hard work, dedication and its a demanding. Superb post:)
ReplyDeleteAnd thank you for your encouraging words.
DeleteC'mon its an honor reading and commenting coz I learn so much from writers like you whose pens flows magically. No! I am buttering u..haha!
DeleteI was always a dabbler when it came to blogging and used it as a resort to get myself heard amongst the few patrons I was likely to have. I personally believe that it's pretty archetypal of us Indians to crave for instant redemption rather than prolonged salvation and hence blogging as a very means to surreal coverage seems a farce. More people are likely to prefer other modes they deem more affable. However, it was through blogging that I personally came closer to topics that intrigue me and came closer to finding the truth. It's a place where you can put yourself through ruthless and grueling introspection on one hand, and have an untamed inditing on the other. Indian blogging is moving towards a rather wayward scenario with all the perils of complacency as you mentioned, and the ones who tread the paths, shall survive. :)
ReplyDeleteAs it's true for any medium, where only the fittest survive. And its unreasonable to expect us to move and grow as a cohesive force. We all blog for different reasons. For some it's just an outlet to escape the monotony of life.
DeleteIt's our our personal space where we get to be want we want - the girl we left behind, the humourist, activist and sometimes opening up our heart to talk about things that bother us or make us happy.
ReplyDeleteIndeed, blogging, like paper in the world of iPads and Tablets, will not be out of business too soon. One more reason, apart from the ones you've cited, is that the content is here to stay somewhat like a faithful lover, unlike FB and Twitter where it is orgasmic for a few seconds and then the fancy fades.
ReplyDeleteNice read!
Cheers,
Blasphemous Aesthete
Every medium has its share of its loyal audience. I think it all depends on what we're looking for.
DeleteI was this close to thinking I was completely useless when this article made my day ! I completed 5 years and almost 200 posts on it ! Wow you made me feel special ! :D
ReplyDeleteI loved the Manmohan Singh line- Confessions of an Unmuted Mind would be a befitting book name !!! :D
Mwah <3 Don't let anyone make you believe otherwise. What you do is priceless.
DeleteI panicked for a sec upon reading your post title. For a moment I wondered if I was late to catch the bus. I was the pen-paper-diary-notepad type (I still am) when one fine day, last Nov. i decided to light a candle at the altar of Blogeshwari in the name of 'Raining Thoughts' (http://amogharejeesh.blogspot.in/). I am really enjoying the blogging experience and the homely feeling that my blog url gives me. I'm a regular reader of your blog posts now. It was wonderful reading this post of yours too :)
ReplyDeleteAnd guess what, I'm almost sure Mr. M. Singh would be maintaining a secret log & keeping it close to his heart, which if blogged out to the world one day will surely create a few waves...or well.. ripples at least ;)
As long we have the need to share our thoughts, opinions and read perspectives different from ours, blogging is not going anywhere.
DeleteInstant orgasmic fame? How did you manage that? Hats off to you for coming up with that phrase that sums up most of the internet related activities! However I've come across some brilliant and articulate bloggers who have given me different perspectives. Purba, you inspire a lot of us with your hard work and passion.
ReplyDeleteIt's scary to be told what I do inspires a few. All I can say is, I love the direction my life has taken after I took to blogging. And thank you for your kind words.
DeleteI have seen many bloggers taking time out from this hobby or occupation or obsession--i can't find the right word for it.Lately i too have been taking it easy because other things take precedence.Moreover i think i ought to write only when i have something to say--not say anything just because i want to write.But taking time out from blogosphere means missing enticing posts like yours,which i do regret;but time is a constraint :((
ReplyDeleteIndu,it's exactly what you said - a hobby for some, an occupation for many and an obsession for the likes of us.
DeleteAnd every time I have visited your blog, I have come back with a new perspective and precious nuggets of knowledge.
Gabbar khush hua-bahut khush !!!!!
DeleteA very well-written post! As long as the blogger knows why she/he is writing and stays true to that purpose, a few breaks or lull periods don't matter if that's what is required to come back recharged and renewed. It is really more about what the writer wants to convey or express, and less about the reader. Though of course, without a reader the written word stays 'incomplete' in a way. But yes, the 'marketing' part can be a bit hard for some, I think :) Thanks for this post!
ReplyDeleteI have some sort of emotional attachment to my blog. I neglect it for long, think about shutting it down and yet I keep coming back to it :-). I guess I simply can live without writing !
ReplyDeleteEver since I had the first thoughts over starting my own blog to getting it done and undone to planning upon getting back to blogging... A period of about 3 years now, one thing remains unchanged and that is Purba Ray's blog and its unfailing charm! I believe this is what a continuous stream of passion results in.
ReplyDeleteOh and everytime I come to your blog I am inspired to a higher ground. You are loved as a blogger, a woman who writes her heart and mind out and absolutely shines! Be good to your blog baby, it loves being written and we love reading you.