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Just like the guy in the Metro who thinks it is his birth right to take candid shots of that girl’s cleavage that pops out when she bends down to pick up her book. In fact, every woman who flaunts her curves in a fitted dress and dares to reveal her legs is giving an open invite to men to come and pay their respects. Walk around town in an attire that displays even a hint of your cleavage and you’ll have a dozen pair of eyes boring through your dress, willing it to fall apart.
Didn’t our history of repeat offences teach you that anything’s that’s not covered invites appreciation of the lowest kind?
So, when Draupadi wears an outfit that reveals more than just her face, she should expect KATTI to run an OMG slideshow of her cleavage. And if she objects to it, it’s obviously well-timed to garner more publicity for her Fanny.
Look, I get it, it’s impossible to keep your eyes and cameras off a woman dressed ‘tantalizingly’. It becomes your duty to stare, take close-up shots and share them for the greater good of humanity. Isn’t it time women stopped overacting and accepted it as a compliment instead?
When I step out of my house wearing a figure hugging outfit, I am well aware that people will look. But there’s a difference between the look that makes you squirm and the look that makes you feel good. The difference between discreetly looking versus leering is the acknowledgement that the person in question is a person and not an object.
Maybe Draupadi outrage is just a publicity stunt, as KATTI would have us believe. Maybe her outrage about KATTI’s lack of decency is more of role-play. But the real issue here is not the genuineness of her outrage but a woman’s prerogative to decide what’s inappropriate and what’s not.
But, what they have yet to comprehend is the thin line that divides their OMG Deepika's cleavage show and the magazine photo shoots where she bares it all - it’s called consent.
Consent! The KATTI obviously does not know what it is !
ReplyDeleteApparently, if a woman is at a public place, consent can go to hell.
DeleteA clevage always gets attention but whether it is apprciated or leered at,the lady is a better judge! However, all said, the print and TV media need to be restrained when it comes to making news of things which may not be in good taste!
ReplyDeleteIt's a recent trend followed by a lot of newspapers, focussing on actresses and their wardrobe malfunctions.
DeleteMalfunction? Probably not in this case.
DeleteNo, these were candid shots where the camera zoomed in to get a clear picture.
DeleteConsent is precisely what they don't have in their dictionary Purba. Such a silly reply they have put in the newspaper.
ReplyDeleteTheir response is not what you expect of a reputed National Daily.
DeleteAnd they have been falling flat on their face for some time now. Better they learn the art of getting up and walking off with dignity (while they still have some).
ReplyDeleteThis is how bullies react when caught in the act - they try to slut shame their victim.
DeleteWhen the leading national newspaper thinks the way they do, what can we expect from others? They made it worse by publishing the pictures. That one word - consent is beyond most men. Loved the punch line.
ReplyDeleteAccording to popular opinion, an actress who has bared before deserves to have her cleavage shots taken.
DeleteI really think TOI does not know good taste from obnoxious taste. The lady's response was a wake up call, sadly they did not get that.
ReplyDeleteWhat really pissed me off was their response!
DeleteA year old pic- but fresh enough to dig it out to create cheap headlines. And the audacity to tell her that it was a year old pic so why is she bothered anyway. Disgusting. The Times of India is rightly called the Toiler Paper of India.
ReplyDeleteTheir Entertainment section thrives on pictures of skimpily clad celebrities.
DeleteFirst they put their foot in their mouth and then they dig an even deeper grave. Sigh!
ReplyDeleteApparently, if she's done it before it makes it okay.
DeleteYou said it... they need a bigger slap! Disgusting explanation given by TOI
ReplyDeleteI'm sure they are basking in the attention.
Delete"But there’s a difference between the look that makes you squirm and the look that makes you feel good. The difference between discreetly looking versus leering is the acknowledgement that the person in question is a person and not an object"
ReplyDeleteWell said, Purba, very well said. TOI is only fit for lining our shelves and cupboards now. Filthy rag is what it is !
If they can't improve their content, they can at least improve the quality of their paper. Koi toh kaam ayenge!
DeleteHere is what Marilyn Monroe said famously, "The trouble with censors is that they worry if a girl has cleavage. They ought to worry if she hasn't any." It's interesting to see a broadsheet well past its expiry date trying to censor the lives of the glitterati. Perhaps they are getting together their act as the mouthpiece of ISIS?
ReplyDeleteThey are positioning themselves as the voice of the ladkeys jinse galti ho jatee hai.
DeleteThere happened a hot discussion over cleavage on Twitter long time back. Then the focus was on Australia's PM. There in a reply I found a video entitled cleavage 101 something by a young female. The video I think should be available on YouTube now also. It is an appropriate answer to stunt like these.
ReplyDeleteI will certainly look for it :-)
DeleteThough I didn't like that Deepika made such a big issue on the cleavage thingy but its hilarious to see TOI stoop even lower with their new hypocrisy wala article!
ReplyDeleteExactly! They could have acted with more dignity.
DeleteWe don't live in a private world anymore. Everything is visible. Its how we look at it makes the difference.
ReplyDeleteIt's the look that sets apart the civilized from the uncouth.
DeleteAm not sure about the Fanny publicity (pun intended) but consent is the word..... and ms padukone has the right to be furius because they did it without consent... Najm is right , now stooping lower ...shame TOI .
ReplyDeleteResorting to slut shaming tactics when caught on the wrong foot.
Delete* furious *
ReplyDeleteYou said it! Consent is the word. TOI has lost it completely. They have shown that they can stoop down to any levels.
ReplyDeleteNow we know.
DeleteI think they need to go back to school and learn about consent...
ReplyDeleteWell said Purba
Why just TOI, most people don't get this.
DeletePeople are so stupid and immature.
ReplyDeleteAnd Twitter is the best place to find out.
DeleteNow I'm feeling bad for TOI.. they are so innocent (read: dumb).
ReplyDelete:p
DeleteConsent.... arre.. ee kaa hai babua ?
ReplyDeleteAn alien from Mars.
DeleteIt's like reading The Great Indian Novel by Shashi Tharoor all over again....pity, its all over too soon
ReplyDeleteI doubt that.
DeleteMaybe i am from the old school,but i beg to differ from the comments above.
ReplyDeleteYou have stated that it is:--
'a woman’s prerogative to decide what’s inappropriate and what’s not.'
Yes,it is certainly THAT,but when an actor goes out in a dress she knows very well that she will be photographed and the pics will also be shared in the media.So ,is this not her consent?
What I should have mentioned but did not is the reaction a woman gets when she decides to raise her voice against what she thinks is inappropriate. Suddenly her motives become suspect and people start speculating about her character or the rather the lack of it.
DeleteQuite a good post.
ReplyDeleteI am pretty sure TOI is being run by the Khaps now. It is either that or they are now employing all those who have been accused of throwing acid on girls.
Their journalism has been reduced to activism and trolling to get maximum eye balls.
Seriously, for TOI all we can give is a massive face palm.
Journalism is dead, long love journalism.
Indeed :-)
DeleteNicely jotted and expressed!
ReplyDeleteThanks for reading.
DeleteWell Written :)
ReplyDeleteConsent is the word....perhaps KATTI's dictionary is a 'bakwas' one.. :-( they don't know the word...seems Hebrew to them..
ReplyDeleteThey seem to be pretty unfazed by the backlash.
DeleteIt's a mutual game: both the stars and the media need each other, they are soul-mates and love and hate like soul-mates.
ReplyDeleteHahahaha..w.ell said!
DeleteNot just the publishing those pics, it is the lame excuse that TOI is making is almost like saying " She asked for it, Oh but she wears those kind of clothes so we have right to publish these pics.. Oh really ?
ReplyDeleteThey have endeared themselves to the thousands of creeps who fall back on the same excuse when caught misbehaving.
Delete'Cheapness is in the eye of the beholder" should be the new punchline for TOI. Day by day they are degrading themself to lowest order. Distasteful and disgusting news is the flavour of the season it seems.
ReplyDeleteApparently, this is what sells.
DeleteKATTI needs to grow up....
ReplyDeleteToo much hungama over a cleavage..SIGH!
All they had to do was keep mum.
DeleteMay be it is ladies prerogative to wear what she decides to..If the dress or lack of it is tempting,why blame those who ?????????????
ReplyDeleteSir,nobody minds 'the look' as long as its not leering.
DeleteAt one point I would support Deepika Pdukone , I mean why would not I.But Suddenly I find it funny because it all happened with the release of her film.Is not she is taking it too far , I know Consent is the word we are looking for.But Is she learning from SRK who gets into controversies when his movie is about to release.
ReplyDeleteIf an actress has to rake up a needless controversy about her cleavage being used to get more readers for a publication, Bollywood should do a rethink on the kind of movies it makes. I think Finding Fanny is not the kind of movie that needs cheap publicity.
DeletePerhaps the newspaper wanted publicity and came out with that photo. But why are people making so much noise.? Why should we not leave D alone!!
ReplyDeleteThey could have done that and let it die a slow death.
DeleteThat's one of the things about internet and so-called free press and liberal mindset. It's a boon-curse thing. Boon for some and a curse for others.
ReplyDeleteWe are still at crossroads and most liberal mindsets are dished out for public approval.
DeleteThat response was just unbelievable! I can't get how they just don't GET it!! And, this isn't some illiterate lout; these are people supposedly educated in good schools in journalism!!
ReplyDeleteTOI - The voice of creeps who take a woman's refusal to toe their line as a personal insult.
DeleteForget about KATTI, I feel most men don't understand the word consent at all.
ReplyDeleteAnd that's why it's getting so much support.
Deletewhat an awesome post! loved it! yes, but who gives a damn to a lady's consent, people just want some cheap fun
ReplyDeleteTOI has realized that news is redundant and will now focus on women's body parts.
DeleteCheap journalism, of course. Ironically, the same newspaper would talk about women's dignity in some of its editorials and blame the system.
ReplyDeleteThey have exposed themselves as hypocrites who will stoop to the lowest levels to score points.
DeleteThose who have seen Peepli Live will know the level these media stoop to just to get your eyeballs.
ReplyDeleteTalking of TOI, I had half a mind to boycott the paper and switch over to something else. As a matter of fact if all sane minded people in India did that, it would teach them a lesson.
India's most popular newspaper is not necessarily India's best. Manage yourself as a business venture and this is what you'll get.
DeleteTOI has reached level of sanity and their hypocrisy sucks. I've stopped opening their web till they don't rectify. Disappointed with them!
ReplyDeleteI doubt if our disappointment will make a dent in their sales figures.
DeleteStorm in a tea cupsize! I say, when KATTI flaunts SRK's crotch in fullpage photos on its front page, no one says a thing to defend the poor, exploited man!
ReplyDeleteSuch Hippo Krissy!
I'm sure the warring factions have kissed and made up while we stew in our outrage,
DeleteRickie!!!! That's so ewwwwwwwwwwwwww.............
DeleteTotally agree with you BUT then the people who buy this KATTI are also to be blamed equally.. because this is what SELLS.. and media will do anything to earn money.. after all that is the truth. MONEY to earn money.. how to earn is not a issue..
ReplyDeletemoreover media in our nation has fallen so down that i dont see a chance of it getting rectified ever.. even a miracle will NOT do..
Bikram
Humans are hypocrite. The only difference: the bigger you are, more visible you are. I'm sure there are billions of men and women in league with TOI. And I'm equally sure there are many "so-called" open-minded people/bloggers/writers who are bashing TOI on public/social forums and then stopping ladies at their home from wearing certain things. -_-
ReplyDeletevery well written.............consent and the way one looks are the key factors here
ReplyDeleteI think there are many cultures across the world where women are appreciated and not leered at because cleavage is no big deal and women walk around topless. I think the leering happens because we Indians expect our women to be responsible for their safety by conforming to too many norms. Let women go around nude, and in 50 years time, rape will stop in India.
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