It’s been millions of years since man stood straight, started a fire, invented the wheel and moved from stone to copper. And they still haven’t figured out what women want?? Seriously guys what’s wrong with you! She gave birth to you, nurtured you, cared for you. She is your mother, you sister, your daughter, your best friend, your wife - she completes you, your constant companion through your highs and lows, she makes your house a home.
Yes, she baffles you with her startling contradictions. Her softness caresses you yet she can wound you with her harsh words. Her love can move mountains, melt stony hearts but god forbid if she loathes you. She takes no pains to hide her feelings. She can scald you with her fieriness.
She is capable of driving you up the wall with her rant. Just let her be, she needs to vent it out. Please listen to her, try to understand her. No sermonising please, she hates it. She doesn’t expect you to solve her problems: no thank you, she is pretty much capable of taking care of it all by herself. Isn’t she the one who heads corporations, governs nations, toils at the construction site- a crusader, a healer, a home maker. She wears many a hat, it can be exhausting, it can get daunting, yet she comes back home to cook for you, to care for you. She is capable of forsaking her dreams, her career for the sake of her love. Yes, she craves for your affection, your respect. Make her laugh, indulge her when she loses her sanity on a shopping trip. She can never have enough shoes or dresses. It makes her feel good, she loves a little pampering. Just pander to her whims once in a while. But don’t you dare take her for granted, trample upon her. She is not a conquest, a trophy for your success. She may look weak to many of you but it is she who is the wind beneath your wings, who shares your dreams and applauds your success.
All these years she has been asking what you want and you still don’t know what she wants?
Took ages to make up my mind, perhaps the last entry for the current BlogAdda, in association with Pring00 contest... http://blog.blogadda.com/2010/06/23/what-women-want-indian-bloggers-share
this is fantastic...you have described a woman perfectly...loved the way you started this post :)
ReplyDeleteTypical feminist rant from a girl.Not surprised.I would say,stop decieving as a girl.Be straightforward,there ends the mystery.By keeping onething on eyes,another thing on heart and talks diametrically opposite thing through words,girls aren't helping their cause at all.Well,if girls are such abled and self dependent,they should consider restraining from becoming girl friends and wives.On one side says,girls need pampering and on other side blames men for not understanding.If someone get a girl an apple,she will want an orange,if he get her an orange she will say,she wanted a grapes rather.lol.
ReplyDeleteVery well written. :)
ReplyDeleteIt's a nice post! It felt like it has come straight from your heart. Anyway, all the best for the contest! :)
ReplyDeleteThanx for sharing this... ;-)
ReplyDeleteNow I do not know whether I am at advantage or disadvantage for not being in a woman's company till now (except for mother's and sister's)... but after reading ur post... hmmm... I am speechless (either ways) :P
Agree with you Purba. Well said, now what is so complicated about this that people still keep asking the same Q?;)
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Very well-written Purba. I'd only like to add that a lot of what you've described here holds for men ..I mean... maybe the adjectives change but the soul remains the same :)
ReplyDeletei dont need to read your blog to answer that question purba..i already know what a woman wants..what i really dont know is if a woman knows what she really wants?
ReplyDeletenice one though..
Can it be called coincidence or something more... same feelings shared here http://crystaldewdrops.wordpress.com/2010/06/29/why/
ReplyDeleteLazy Pineapple.. Oh dear,what you read was the rough draft with it's few typos. But thank you for your encouraging comment.
ReplyDeleteNithin.. Women do not have identical genes and similar mental disposition. I am sorry that you have met only the deceiving, conniving types. And it's not just women who crave for indulgence :)
Nethra...The contest is incidental, the topic was very intriguing. Had to write about it. And thank you for your best wishes
Prateek.. Thanks
Did I manage to scare you Satyakam?
ReplyDeleteMadhusudhan...That thinking cap refuses to come off. We think too much, fret too much and worry on behalf of the rest of humanity.
Satyakam..Read your post and left a comment :)
Sowmya..LOL seriously...Attention deficit disorder?
ReplyDeleteKiran, we constantly evolve and try to change for our loved ones. We cannot take Me for granted.
beautifully done!
ReplyDeleteTruly sounds like a power woman...Thanks for raising the voice :)
ReplyDeleteLiked it!
Drop@http://garima-bhatia.blogspot.com/2010/06/20th-page-in-diary-of-woman.html
I loved reading your post....infact reading your other posts too :)
ReplyDeleteI must thanks Satyakam for introducing me to your blog :)
Keep your thoughts flowing!! :)
magiceye and Garima, thanks :))
ReplyDeletecrystaldewdrops...Flattered and glad you liked it
what women want and what men want is an over-worked issue. At the end of the day, women or men wants love and to be loved, self-respect and acknowledgment ;)
ReplyDeletenice post Purba..a near perfect description of what wealthy, urban women want.
ReplyDeleteLakshmi, Absolutely... love and understanding is what we all want
ReplyDeleteRajashree.. LOL.. O dear I forgot the other half.
We sure as hell can never figure out what women want but you know what men want from women,as Seinfield put it " Men want the same thing from women that they want from their underwear: a little bit of support, and a little bit of freedom." :p
ReplyDeleteAnd guess what, my next post is on smart underwear :))
ReplyDeletewhat women want is...... a bit of support and a lot of respect for whatever she has to go through physically and mentally to make life comfortable for her family members.
ReplyDeleteAfter reading the complete post, I was left with the feeling...What else would women want?
ReplyDeleteRenu...Couldn't agree with you more
ReplyDeleteJoshi...Women want just one thing.........everything!!!
One, you made me look for the meaning of 'scald'! grrrr!
ReplyDeleteTwo, How I wish all this was true. All i know is that you are the most unpredictable species on earth!
Yes, I don't know what women want even after reading this post. :D
Aww no..scalding hot?
ReplyDeleteAs if men are any better. You never come to know what's going on in that head of theirs.
Agreed. We men do not know what women want but all women know what men want. Still men have to beg/borrow/steal. We are a intelligent thus complex of species. If men and women know what their opposites want then their will be no end to negotiations. Life will be more complex and the issue will not be what they want but how to settle for what both want. Sometime no settlement at all. Will that be any better scenario?
ReplyDeleteVery nice Post
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